Why I Stopped Letting Other People’s Opinions Get in the Way of Living My Best Life

When I started my self-development journey, I found that people around me, especially my old friends, found it harder than I did. I now realise it was because I was changing and they didn’t like it. They wanted me to stay the same because it made them comfortable, but I knew staying the same wasn’t going to work for me.

I was learning a whole new way of being that was fulfilling and, although I didn’t know it at the time, there was no turning back.
After a while, I realised I had to make a choice: either to continue my self-development journey and become the person I wanted to be or stay the same and become resentful. I chose what was best for me, and continued my self-development journey.

I think this was the first time I consciously chose me and put myself first. But trust me, it wasn’t an easy decision and initially the consequences felt difficult to deal with. I felt alone and missed my old friends. I now realise what I really missed was being comfortable and – like most people – found change very challenging, even though it was the right thing to do.

However I persevered, and as I continued my self-development journey I made new like-minded friends and a whole new world opened up to me. They became my new support network and together we: 

• had amazingly profound conversations about all the possibilities and opportunities available to us;
• shared information and resources to help each other grow and be our best;
• had fun learning and trying new things.
• supported and encouraged each other to pursue and achieve our goals, even if they felt overly ambitious;
• allowed each other to dream and think outside the box. In fact, there was no box anymore – the possibilities were endless! 

And the biggest change for me was how my mindset shifted. I went from thinking “I can’t do that” to “how can I do that?”.

As for my old friends, I am still in contact with some of them.  I realise my true friends will always be there for me because they love me for me not who they want me to be. 
It’s simply a case of mind over matter: if I don’t mind, what they think doesn’t matter.

Today, I am doing things I’ve never done before, even if it means I get it wrong. I am no longer limited by others’ opinions of me. I want to take full advantage of every opportunity, especially the ones I create. 

I became a Coach and Mentor to help you become your best because I believe there is Greatness in of all of us. The world is your oyster and I want to help you reach your potential so you too can create and take full advantage of your opportunities.